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Nah, I'd Rather Not.

Written By Melissa Sottosanti 05 Dec 2018
Nah, I'd Rather Not.


Thanks for joining me!

It sure has been a minute since I've been on here! Currently, I am looking at my pile of papers with scribbles of items that I need to get completed,  statistics homework that I'm dreading, the dogs won't stop barking and I have yet to take a shower today.  I am normally very organized, type A person and lately, I cannot get my shit together.

I know that most of you either have families or are planning on having families and you probably think to yourself "How am I supposed to balance life and work"? How do I ensure enough time for everyone and still do the things I want to do? I am here to tell you that YOU CANT!

No, I am just kidding (....kind-of) 

I have three boys ranging from 14 to 2 years old, work part-time at an office, taking online classes for my bachelor's degree, building my company, and last but not least trying to find time for my ever-so-patient husband and friends.  I thought that after hygiene school I would have a normal life and that I just had to make it through those few years of being busy. Oops, I was wrong.  I wanted more! Standing at our pinning ceremony I was overwhelmed with emptiness. Don't get me wrong, I was ecstatic to be an RDH but I remember thinking, this is it? Now I just go off and work in an office for the rest of my life.  The truth of the matter is that I didn't want to settle.

"The truth of the matter is that I didn't want to settle."


Maybe you feel this way or have in the past. All I know is that on Facebook, I see hygienists on burnout, second-guessing hygiene, and even questioning if they are "good" at what they do. How many times have you found yourself searching for alternative careers? Conversations float around about being stuck in clinical due to school debt and how to balance work/life/school. Whether you have been in hygiene for 25 years or barely 1 year, I guarantee that you have felt this way.  WTF is wrong with us? Here we have a great paying job with pretty decent hours, yet something is missing. I don't have the answers for you, however, for myself, I found what I was missing. I encourage you to do the same.

Inside my soul, I have a fire that burns with a passion to create and design.  Hygiene Gangster is my outlet and my ultimate passion. My decision to go back to school was a personal goal of mine to receive my bachelor's. As much as I didn't want to get into more school debt I realized that it is just a payment and the satisfaction of doing something for myself is much greater.

"the satisfaction of doing something for myself is much greater"

So if you are feeling this way or have felt this way, I just want to let you know that it's all going to be okay! Take that leap of faith, find your passion, write it down and look at it every day. What sets your soul on fire? Life doesn't always have to be about balance or organization. At the end of the day, you need to do what fulfills you. Am I overwhelmed, Yes? Do I struggle with making sure I am spending enough quality time with my husband, Yes? Am I being the best mother I could possibly be, Yes? Do I second guess myself on a weekly basis, absolutely! Do you want to know why? Because I am doing what makes me happy, I am fulfilled. I love being busy and I feel satisfied at the fact that I am able to get up each day with a list of items to do because it makes me thrive!

For Fu*cks' sake, it is NEVER going to be the right time, so stop waiting for it to come. Live your life and don't settle.



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